Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Dear Playgroup Mommies

Dear Playgroup Mommies who do speak different languages,
 I think I speak for most of us other moms when I say that we would like for you to speak english when you are at playgroup. We might want to interact with you too and when you huddle in a group and jabber back and forth with each other in a different languages it really makes it hard for us other moms. I understand that is your language but let us be real our national language is english and when you are in a group like a playgroup it would reall be nice if you cut that out and spoke so that we all can understand what you are saying. I hate sitting there listening to you and your two other friends talk back and forth wondering what you are saying. Are you talking badly about other moms? Or worse our kids? I really dislike how clique-y the playgroup has gotten since your group has come in. Great way to boldly say hey we don't want to interact with you other moms, just get the kids out for 2hrs and thats all without coming outright and saying so. It annoys the piss out of me, I live in America and I like speaking english I also like hearing it too and interacting with other moms who also don't try to alienate themselves by talking amongst themselves in their language.
 My child also would probably like to talk with your child and understand each other. To the child at playgroup who doesn't speak or understand english I am sorry for you, sorry for the injustice your mother and family is doing to you. What a shame that you live here in America and don't understand our national language, wonder how far behind other kids you will be if put in public schools? My poor kids would love to play with you and I know Ladybug has tried more than a few times to start a conversation with you but she gets upset because nobody has bothered to teach you english. I also would like for you to understand what I say when I am telling you to stop hitting or being mean because your mommy is too busy jibber jabbing back and forth with her other friends, probably talking about how much fun it is to just come to playgroup and not pay attention to your kids while other parents try and correct their horrid behavior as best they can when there is a language barrier.
 I enjoy coming to playgroup regularly, I have made some friends there that I really like talking with when we are all there. It is fun for my kids to see their friends and play and have snacks and all that together. But really I like playgroup because I get to have adult human interaction which as a stay at home mom I really really enjoy! I would love to talk with you and get to know you and have interactions with you other than a welcome smile when you walk in the door. I remember last summer we had a family come in who was from Saudi Arabia and we all tried as hard as we could to interact with them even though they barely understood or spoke a lick of english. The mom was so willing to understand us and I even went as far as buying an eglish/Saudi translator app on my phone to helps us all comminucate better. That ended up helping so much and we were able to show that mom and her wonderful children a nice time while they were in the states. Heck we even made arrangements to get them too and from Chuck E Cheese one day!
 So seriously if that mom made as much attempts as she possibly could why can't you? Is it that much effort to talk with us other moms? If you don't want interactiosn with us than why even bother coming to our playgroup? It really really bugs the shit out of me.
 Signed,
 Me, the redhead who is super annoyed at you

3 comments:

  1. Oh so what I hear you saying I am really not missing all the drama between the Mom who lets strangers babysit her child while she runs to the grocery store and the cliquey non English speaking folk. I remember the Saudi Mom she was super nice :) I am glad we can show her how nice we can be in America since I am sure a lot of them has bad views of us. I wish it wasn't disruptive of William's nap or I would go more... when my Cornea is intact! I miss you guys!

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  2. Wow.

    I go to playgroups to meet other moms who I might have something in common with, and if that happens, I for sure focus on chatting with the one or two of them and it is very likely that I might only smile at the rest of the moms in the room, unless they start a conversation with me.

    This post feels kind of brutal to be directed at a stranger. Just sayin'. ;)

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  3. Brutal? no. my honest feelings, yes. I always try to talk to everybody, we are all there together why alienate yourself and be cliquey like this? I don't understand. yes I can see the feelings of happiness when they can talk together and have memories of hone or whatever cause if I meet somebody from Ohio I smile sure as heck I would talk with them but I wouldn't alienate myself to just about Ohio all the time every time. And that is what it seems to be like with this small group and its annoying!

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