So what is happening anyway, why does this upset me? Well cause I hate seeing people end up just another statistic. I want better for people, for new moms, and for their new babies...I want better for them all. I wish I did not care so much but I do. I can see the future of this thing and the future is surgery for non-medicallay needed reasons, the reasons are on my birth pet peeve list and are top on the list.
Big Baby
really how "big" is too "big" these days. I know plenty of women who birth 8-9+ pound babies no problem on a regular basis. How does one even know that a baby is "too big" befgore they are born anyway? The guessitmate from feeling the belly, the inaccurate ultrasound, the quick observation of how a woman carries. None of those things are correct and are all horribly inaccurate. I have had doctors and midwives lose money on how big both my children would be at birth. With Ladybug I had a quick pre-term labor scare that required an ultrasound at 34 weeks and they guessed she was 6+ pounds right then...she came out at 7lbs 13oz so what happened to that huge baby I kept getting threatened with? Or how about my midwife actually losing money on a bet she made about the size of Mister...she was so sure he would be a 9+ pound baby that she lost $20 when he came out at 7pounds 15oz! So why?? well I firmly believe that your body will only grow a baby that your body can birth, it is that simple. I have a theory that in the last weeks of pregnancy your body stops gaining weight actually so that they are the perfect size for your body to birth naturally. Trust this, mother nature designed us perfectly for birth...it is what we do! Yes I know there is a small population who actually cannot birth larger babies but like I said that is a small population, not like what American doctors lead you to think..that we are all broken. Let go of this fear and trust your body, trust your baby, trust in birth!
Failure to Wait
Or in most medical charts it is written as "failure to progress" only because failure to wait isn't a favorable medical term because it places blame on the doctor for not waiting and they like to place the blame on mom for not progressing like textbooks say they should. What is the big hurry to get the baby out if nothing is medically wrong with both mom and baby? Why can we not just wait until the baby singles our bodies that it is time? It would save us loads of surgeries! I understand the feelings at the end of pregnancy, you are tired and sore and swollen and huge...all of these things seem major to you when you are there but trust me every single pregnant woman feels the same way at the end . We all go through the pains and aches and moods and you just cannot wait to hold that sweet baby finally, but just wait. If you cannot wait and the baby is born against their wishes you cannot exactly hold a NICU baby too much...so lose-lose there. Ya that sounds blunt but I am blunt. A baby who is ripped from moms body before they are ready statistically speaking will spend have some nicu time for one reason or another the major one being "wet lungs". Just have some patience with your unborn baby, trust that you cannot be pregnant forever! I know one mom who just had their son born at 43 weeks and some days because she trusted and waited..and he wasn't a huge baby either, and she had him naturally. As long as you and baby are ok than it is ok to wait!
ok those are my two pet peeves for birth today. I hope that the future I see is wrong for this one and that she doesn't fall into the statistic for her age group and first time mom but as of right now fear has taken over, once that happens Dr. Stabby hands steps in to "save the day" ....sigh.... if I could only save them all
I know someone who praised her own ability to birth naturally without IV meds or Epidural. Yay for her... but she gave the baby Pitocin to get it ready.. How natural is that? I agree with everything you said!
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